The Power of Declarative Language
Supporting Neurodivergent Brains
What is declarative language?
Declarative Language is like a superpower, but one you can learn! Declarative language creates safety, comfort, and autonomy, and enables collaboration whilst reducing demands placed on others.
Declarative language is an observational statement that can be about the environment, thoughts, or people. This language can create safety and allow access to the thoughtful part of our brain rather than triggering a stress response.
Imperative language is the opposite, and put simply, requires a verbal or physical (action) response where one person is in control of the conversation.
Here are a few examples outlining the difference between declarative and imperative language:
Imperative: “Have you cleaned your room yet?” vs Declarative: “I see a few toys on the floor in your room."
Imperative: “Put sunscreen on before you leave!” vs Declarative: “I wonder how we could be sun safe at the beach."
Imperative: “Please stop talking over me.” vs Declarative: “I can see your excited to share your ideas. Maybe we could all take turns so that everyone is heard."
Parent guilt: Sometimes imperative language is used during stressful and busy times, such as running late for school. It is important to normalise these experiences and note the time and self-regulation required to consistently implement declarative language. No one is perfect, and I even slip during my OT sessions!
How does Declarative Language support Neurodivergent brains?
As outlined in the above examples, declarative language is based on observations and encourages collaboration, whereas imperative language is more direct and demanding.
Declarative language meets the needs and supports growth for neurodivergent brain types (Collective T.C, 2021).
Declarative language supports by:
Allows our thoughts to be heard and supports the development of a child’s inner voice.
Supports the development of problem-solving skills as declarative language encourages us to model this aloud.
Encourages wonder and curiosity.
Encourages collaboration and connection.
How can we practice Declarative Language?
Self-regulation:
Declarative language can take time to implement consistently and there are always going to be moments where it is simply not possible. Practicing a new skill requires self-regulation, self-acceptance, and a sense of calm. Self-regulation looks different for everyone, and exploring what brings you happiness and calm, and embedding throughout your day will support self-regulation.
Tone and playfulness:
Creating a fun and playful environment can encourage a sense of safety and relaxation. Playfulness may include gamifying tasks, ‘I wonder who can tie their shoes the fastest!’ or adopting a light and fun tone ‘Hmm I can see there are clothes on your floor.’
Acceptance:
It is important to meet your child where they are at and consider their own regulation. Sometimes this strategy may not work for them, and that is okay. Please refer to our resource on PDA and co-regulation to explore other ways you can modify tasks or reduce demands to support regulation.
Written by Jenna Field - Occupational Therapist
References:
Sippl, Amy. (2025). Declarative Language For Neurodivergent Communicators | Life Skills Advocate. [online] Available at: https://lifeskillsadvocate.com/blog/declarative-language-for-neurodivergent-communicators/
Collective, T.C. (2021). Help Your Child Self-Regulate by Using Declarative Language. [online] Available at: https://thechildhoodcollective.com/2021/10/15/help-your-child-self-regulate-with-declarative-language/